It’s not uncommon for us to remain unloved in the closest of our relationships. It was meant to be better , softer, safer and kind but it turns out to be cruel, bitter and unsafe leaving us more insecure and emotionally hurt than before.
There is a deep grief that accompanies this disappointment of hitting a wall which should and could have been a way forward. Why could love never happen to this relationship when that was all it was meant to be.
It would be relevant to understand this situation from a few perspectives here. An important one being that your partner may not be ready and flowing or as heart opened as you. You may feel deeply and care profoundly wanting to go the extra mile to share your opened heart with the world and might not get that same resonance from them. Most of us are so used to living with our hearts closed and clinging to our safe spaces of security and knowingness that it can be scary and absurd to risk this for the sake of living openly and in vulnerability.
Foolish and naive sounding, the ways of the heart are unknown areas to the limited thinking mind. And being available and vulnerable to life may not be the way your partners live. Causing the basic difference between the ways of life perception, it may be sad for you to walk your path alone. But walk you must if you are brave and honest.
Allow the grief of being misunderstood and unloved in your closest relationships. Sit with yourself and let the tears explode. Be bathed with this sadness and then release it all from inside. Forgive, let go and keep walking your path with honesty and courage. Love is not about being reciprocated but about being it. Start from the point of compassion first to your own self and then to all who meet you in the path.
Only a heart that knows the grief of being unloved has a capacity of compassion for all living beings. So pain is not a shame …but a way!
Choose consciously to ‘be love’ rather than seeking it from anyone. Lean on God’s love alone because mortal men and relationships between humans is never going to fill your cup but even a drop of the Amrita nectar of God’s devotion will bliss your being to satiety.
Be your own beloved!