Indifference and subtle aggression is something many of us face in our closest relationships. It breaks something inside us so deeply that the heart wounds may take years to heal. The most important damage they cause is that we can fail or fear to trust even the worthy relationships after such encounters.
Joy in relationships is very rare. Most are only power struggles where people cope and agress in many different ways. Since most of us go to fancy colleges for education and then in corporate cultures where no education or empowerment is offered to be juvenile and tender with how we deal with these kinds of emotional violence, we are unequipped and don’t know how to respond. Showing our reaction to this kind of aggression does not seem even valid or genuine in our communities.
Aggression and violence of any kind is a kind of self addiction to both who give it to their closed ones and also to many who receive it without communicating their pain. As if it were very normal, the relationships seize their way through years without any joy or honour. They just are dead inside though they are quite intact outside.
Are you a victim of such violence too.
If yes ..see them clearly.. the patterns and your own addiction to lovers who actually resent you from within.
Lay down boundaries
Speak about it to someone who cares and can offer you a gentle kind ear.
Empower yourself towards your own joy without leaning on such people
Break the relationship if you must to cut the umbilical cord of pain.
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Very beautifully written..
Thank you